So my girfriends and I have talked about this for ages!! So I decided to blog about this hot topic. Lets first start with What is a good man?
According to Me, Linda Juma, the definition of a good man is a Man who knows himself, knows what he wants in life, confident, respectful, HONEST, LOYAL, etc .and the list goes on. Now there is a fine line between confidence and cockiness. If all he cares about is how he looks then he is cocky. RUN> Big egos are unattractive and stupid.I can personally tell you I do not like cockiness. And thats where I draw the line. If I ask a dude what do you want in life? and he answers me..OMG He just went from cute to HOT in 5 seconds!! Thats HOT!! I dnt care what you say but this man is focused, he has long term and short term goals and guuurrrrllll am digging that!!
Secondly I love an attractive guy. Now whats cute to me may not be cute to you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And by attraction I dont mean the Physical..there are alot of elements that define "attractiveness".
I just have to tell my ladies that we have lowered our standards and expectations alot. We live in a society of instant gratification and therefore we tend to fall for anything that comes our way simply because we want to fit in and we don't want to be the chic who rides solo. BAD MISTAKE. Ok so am going to get a little personal here: I hate opening up but if you read my blog last week about facing my fears I did say am going to start letting go and just opening up. So here I go:
I am 24 and I have made ALOT of mistakes in my past relationships that upto this day I still beat up myself for those mistakes. In one of my relationships, I put up with soooo much. I tolerated the good, the bad, the ugly andI was "afraid" to just speak my mind fully because I felt like I was going to lose him. Boy was I wrong ?!! It got worse and worse and by the time I finally decided to confront him..it was too late. Prior to this relationship I was in a very unhealthy relationship. Once again I was trying to be the cool "21st century tough chic who doesnt care what a man does to you" WRONG! Even the strongest people do have emotions...I crumbled and yeah it ended. So After receiving so many emails from my female subscibers begging me to blog more about realtionships and asking me for advice I decided to complie a list of helpful tips you can use to ensure you are in a healthy relationship. Its hard for people to believe this but I am no relationship expert..I just handle issues differently than most females.
1. Communication is key. Infact communication is like the bonding glue that binds the love together. If he or you cannot communicate effectively than TRUST ME..you are bound for failure. Take it from me. I am speaking from experience. Learn to acknowledge when you are wrong and appreciate them for who they are.
2. If the focal point of the relationship is sex than he is a jerk. you cant meet me at noon and want to boogie me at 2 pm. Thats BULL. RUN!!! If a man wants to truly know you..he will wait and take time. Ok ladies this is where most chics just take it overborad. Just coz he is waiting doesnt mean he is not getting it anywhere else. Most males cannot go a sex diet. He will wait..YES> coz he respects you and is waiting for when you are ready..thats GREAT!! but honey listen here...since you aint opening up your romping shop..he is buying candy at someone else's kitty. THEN when you do decide that you wanna get in a exclusive realationhip..he might get rid of his "friend with benefits" and just rock your boat or he might keep you both just incase he wants to get a different flavor coz we all know strawberry all the time can be boring so once in a while he might want vanilla...JUST SAYING!
3.Mutual respect is a MUST> America as a society has really bashed men and given too much power to women simply coz for the longest time..men really mistreated their women. But what most people dont realize is some women out there do abuse their men. Yes it happens and if you arguing we can go toe to toe. Some men out there are being beaten and bused but since soceity all thinks only women get battered...this issue gets swept under the rag. Main point here is Respect your man and please guys..TREAT US LIKE QUEENS. I kknow this is a touchy tipic and am not trying to defend men here..am just saying..we should be fair.
4. Watch how he treats his mom and sisters and how he interacts with your friends. Enough said
5. Do not be overly submissive and needy...its a huge turn off to the gents. Be independent...do your thing and let him do is.
6.Ladies: carry yourself in a decent manner.
7.Look for men in the right places. If you met him at the club..goodluck. Look for a good christian man with strong moral values. I gotta tell you though I have a long list of what I look for in a man and actually one of my friends told me that he thinks am looking for Jesus. And I have made a mistake of just forgoing my list and falling in love with men who dont even care about who God is. And it ended BAD!! SO please ladies...get real. and oh please make your expecations real not fantasy.
8. He has to be honest!!! and Trust is a very important element of a relationship.
9.Love yourself first and accept who you are. Men are not meant to make us happy...they are meant to be our companions, and recreate with us..if you are not happy from within then NO MAN will fill that void. Work on yourself first before you go dumping all your insecurities on a man.
10. Mr perfect doesnt exist!!! YOu have to pick and choose what is important to YOU. its all about Compromise!!
ABOVE ALL...PUT GOD FIRST!!!!
I gotta be honest..I could not cover everything in this blog. I could blog all day about relationships. But worry not I will answer all your questions.
P.S..am think of just doing video blogs instead of writting. But thats a whole different story because I need to buy a good camera and yadda yadda... and when I do decide to launch my video blogs I will have guest bloggers with me and it will be fun, fun, fun!!!!!
NOTE: Nxt week is Know your status week. so am urging all people...especially the youth to go out and get tested. Many clinics in the DFW area will be giving out FREE tests,,so pls know your status. You might be the faithful partner but you do not know what he/she is doing behind closed doors. Its funny how when swine flu broke out EVERYONE had a mask but yet no one wants to use a condom....The Irony of life.
Enjoy your weekend, don't drink and drive. Do not have sex without a condom...STDs are real. I truly love you all. Without my readers I would not be here today!! Thank you for those emails. GOD BLESS!!!
Nov 19, 2010
your mom may have lied to you...........
This is a must read blog regarding women from a male's perscpective...Enjoy and tell me if you agree with this or not!!!
Nice girls are great for friends. But Nice guys finish last AND SO DO NICE GIRLS.. Have you ever asked yourself ladies “why is he marrying that whore?” Um well.. (And this is tricky) But She talks alot of ish and she may not have the JD.. BUT let me tell you what she does do well:
1. Speaks the King’s English
2. Has a good potential to raise the kids with some male help.
3. She’s our best friend mainly because she’s got core competency in conversations that require her to think “outside” of her female self. AND
Drum roll Please!
4* She’s a damn freak and plays it off well in the streets and her head is like Comcast.. “ON DEMAND”!! Blowin’ through those boxers like “PREPAID MINUTES” (See Broadway Keith on that last quote, lol) And she makes a show of it! Just like Mase said “Do it like you’re doing it for TV”. I mean, how much longer are we really going to stay mad, looking down at you?! Those chicks get wifed. And if not wifed, seriously engaged. And I hate to say it, but we will upgrade you to first class status if you can cook, make us look good, be a great team player amongst friends and family, keep our house a home or or apt looking like a good woman live’s in it, and um, one more thing. -watched Superhead/Mr. Marcus on DVD until she was able to do it with no hands..
Let’s be for real. Mama may have told you where the salad forks go, how to set a table.. Mama may have showed you how to wash and fold. She may showed you how to cook Thanksgiving dinner.. Mama taught you what to look for in a man.She may have even taught some of you how a proper woman sounds and while all that is still appropriate behavior, still very necessary qualities there’s more. If your MAMA did’nt give you a hoola-hoop when you were a child,, then your auntie should’ve. You can be the best housewife in this world, but if your man’s gotta go somewhere else because you’re too holier than thou to get busy to a rap song? then she set you up to fail.
Some men like how their relationship looks on the outside. Some men like how it performs on the inside. The one’s that like how it looks on the outside, have you to make it all look great on paper. Perfect, picturesque. But they’re the one’s that may have the other very functional counterpart: The infamous Jumpoff. WHY do you ask? Because the jumpoff represents balance. Balance between who he is in family mode and who he is in “man” mode. I mean ladies think about.. Before you, do you think he was super cerebral about the where’s the when’s and the how’s?? No. You were the ultimate “shit”. You looked good, you smelled great, your hair was perfect, your convo was right, your body is dope. And he looked past the fact that you were a deuce in bed because you had some many other things on the ball. The only problem is, if you’ve never been free to get it off with your chick the way you always wanted to, then guess what, you probably won’t and someone else is going to. And when everything is in place and there’s a free moment to just be himself, where MIGHT he go? take a guess… a guilt free bang out session
-Dinner & drinks at the W hotel: $230+tips
-Movie: $30
-Trip to the local Liquor store for some Ciroc to keep the party rollin: $40
-Not having to explain why you want to get dirty in the parking lot?: priceless
It’s tough to undo this kind of relationship, mainly because you’ve never known the truth anyway! The truth is every man could stand some unsolicited dirty “something or another”. Why?! because Eff it.. THAT’s why.. Why in the car?! because it’s like when were younger, that’s why.. Why sloppy and messy because that’s the way they do it on TV! when we’re wishing we were getting some of that!! THAT’S why!! The sadity sex game is out! I can’t reiterate this enough.. It’s a recurring theme. look at it this way, if you have all of the other thing’s down pat it’s just one more thing. and with it, you can talk all the shit you want to.. You might even get a way with a little more.
Food for thought. that all. I’m not selling the truth. I’m just delivering it. You wanna control the relationship? Don’t shut us up.. SHUT US, THE EFF UP! Put that in your clutch bag..
There’s nothing sexier than a “take charge” wifey when the time’s right. You saw Mr Marcus stand down didn’t you…? Let your mother’s half be the good half.. But get youself a real good tutor for the “other” half..
Taken from:
http://mensbestkeptsecrets.wordpress.com/2010/11/16/77-your-mom-may-have-lied-to-you/
Nice girls are great for friends. But Nice guys finish last AND SO DO NICE GIRLS.. Have you ever asked yourself ladies “why is he marrying that whore?” Um well.. (And this is tricky) But She talks alot of ish and she may not have the JD.. BUT let me tell you what she does do well:
1. Speaks the King’s English
2. Has a good potential to raise the kids with some male help.
3. She’s our best friend mainly because she’s got core competency in conversations that require her to think “outside” of her female self. AND
Drum roll Please!
4* She’s a damn freak and plays it off well in the streets and her head is like Comcast.. “ON DEMAND”!! Blowin’ through those boxers like “PREPAID MINUTES” (See Broadway Keith on that last quote, lol) And she makes a show of it! Just like Mase said “Do it like you’re doing it for TV”. I mean, how much longer are we really going to stay mad, looking down at you?! Those chicks get wifed. And if not wifed, seriously engaged. And I hate to say it, but we will upgrade you to first class status if you can cook, make us look good, be a great team player amongst friends and family, keep our house a home or or apt looking like a good woman live’s in it, and um, one more thing. -watched Superhead/Mr. Marcus on DVD until she was able to do it with no hands..
Let’s be for real. Mama may have told you where the salad forks go, how to set a table.. Mama may have showed you how to wash and fold. She may showed you how to cook Thanksgiving dinner.. Mama taught you what to look for in a man.She may have even taught some of you how a proper woman sounds and while all that is still appropriate behavior, still very necessary qualities there’s more. If your MAMA did’nt give you a hoola-hoop when you were a child,, then your auntie should’ve. You can be the best housewife in this world, but if your man’s gotta go somewhere else because you’re too holier than thou to get busy to a rap song? then she set you up to fail.
Some men like how their relationship looks on the outside. Some men like how it performs on the inside. The one’s that like how it looks on the outside, have you to make it all look great on paper. Perfect, picturesque. But they’re the one’s that may have the other very functional counterpart: The infamous Jumpoff. WHY do you ask? Because the jumpoff represents balance. Balance between who he is in family mode and who he is in “man” mode. I mean ladies think about.. Before you, do you think he was super cerebral about the where’s the when’s and the how’s?? No. You were the ultimate “shit”. You looked good, you smelled great, your hair was perfect, your convo was right, your body is dope. And he looked past the fact that you were a deuce in bed because you had some many other things on the ball. The only problem is, if you’ve never been free to get it off with your chick the way you always wanted to, then guess what, you probably won’t and someone else is going to. And when everything is in place and there’s a free moment to just be himself, where MIGHT he go? take a guess… a guilt free bang out session
-Dinner & drinks at the W hotel: $230+tips
-Movie: $30
-Trip to the local Liquor store for some Ciroc to keep the party rollin: $40
-Not having to explain why you want to get dirty in the parking lot?: priceless
It’s tough to undo this kind of relationship, mainly because you’ve never known the truth anyway! The truth is every man could stand some unsolicited dirty “something or another”. Why?! because Eff it.. THAT’s why.. Why in the car?! because it’s like when were younger, that’s why.. Why sloppy and messy because that’s the way they do it on TV! when we’re wishing we were getting some of that!! THAT’S why!! The sadity sex game is out! I can’t reiterate this enough.. It’s a recurring theme. look at it this way, if you have all of the other thing’s down pat it’s just one more thing. and with it, you can talk all the shit you want to.. You might even get a way with a little more.
Food for thought. that all. I’m not selling the truth. I’m just delivering it. You wanna control the relationship? Don’t shut us up.. SHUT US, THE EFF UP! Put that in your clutch bag..
There’s nothing sexier than a “take charge” wifey when the time’s right. You saw Mr Marcus stand down didn’t you…? Let your mother’s half be the good half.. But get youself a real good tutor for the “other” half..
Taken from:
http://mensbestkeptsecrets.wordpress.com/2010/11/16/77-your-mom-may-have-lied-to-you/
Nov 18, 2010
the value of appreciation
* Just gonna stand there and watch me burn, but that's alright because I love the way you lie*..Nah just kidding..keep lying to me and I will grab this chair and throw it in your face you TWIT...LOL oh sorry guys! as you can tell am jamming to Rihanna and Eminem....lets get to business shall we?
Ok so have you ever met a person or people who just never learned how to use these two simple words ?: THANK YOU...SIGH. there are people who NO MATTER what you do or say they will never ever ever ever see the good in you or appreciate anything you do for them. And then ofcourse you have those who always judge others and criticize them all the time!!!so here are 2 cute stories I wanted to share with you guys:
story number 1: Its a beautiful sunday morning so this wife decides to wake up a lil early and prepare breakfast for her husband in bed...aaww cute right? so her husband wakes up, and realizes that his wife is not in bed but he smells the sweet aroma of food being cooked. so he walks up into the kitchen, kisses his wife goodmorning. he then asks ..what's for breakfast? she says..well its a surprise hun. so he goes ahead and said ..mm sounds good. but while you making breakfast could you please make me two eggs? one scrambled and one boiled...the wife said ok. SO this chic..whips up some good yummy breakfast, set the table and when the husband sat down to eat. he looks right into his wife's face and utters these words :" honey you boiled the wrong egg"........*awkward silence*-------------* cricket chirp noise*.....WHAT THE HECK? HOW DID SHE BOIL THE WRONG EGG?
Moral of the story : Learn to appreciate the little that people do for you. This husband obviously is convolutted coz he didnt even think what the wife did what..all he could think about is "the egg"..out of 12 eggs how do you pick the wrong one?
Story number two: In the city of savannah, Georgia...A young couple bought their first home in a really upscale neighbourhood. lets name this family Mr and Mrs Brown. Six months later, their next door neighbour sold his house and therfore someone new moved in. We will name the new family the Perrys.So every morning, Mrs Perry ( the new family that moved in) would do laundry and hang it outside to air dry instead of using a drying machine. Mrs West would always look outside the window and see how dirty the newly washed clothes looked. So Mrs west always complained to her husband about how their new neighbour's wife is dirty and stingy and doesnt know how to wash clothes coz they always look so dirty on the clothes line. She even one day went next door and took her detergent thinking maybe mrs Perry could not afford detergent thats why her clothes looked so dirty.
Behold one morning Mrs West woke up and as usual she looked outside the window and saw Mrs Perry hanging her clothes. But what was different this time was her clothes were sparkly clean!!!!! she ran upstaris to her husband saying honey!! honey!!! guess what? our neighbour's clothes are finally clean!!! she must have used that detergent I took her!!!!...the husband looked her in the eye and said " No honey, thats because I woke early this morning and cleaned our windows".....WOW...see the problem was not that Mrs Perry didnt wash her clothes well...the problem was that the Wests' windows were so dirty so they reflected anything outside to be dirty.
Moral of the story...alot of times we tend to judge others and think we better than them. First things first...look deep innside yourself and analyze yourself before you can project your insecurities and judgments toward others. Alot of times the problem lies within you but we are too busy focusing on the wrong thing so we end up blaming others for our misfortunes or thinking we are better than them. Remove the log in your own eye first, before trying to remove the speck in someone else's eye.
Goodnight pals!!!!
Namaste!!!
Ok so have you ever met a person or people who just never learned how to use these two simple words ?: THANK YOU...SIGH. there are people who NO MATTER what you do or say they will never ever ever ever see the good in you or appreciate anything you do for them. And then ofcourse you have those who always judge others and criticize them all the time!!!so here are 2 cute stories I wanted to share with you guys:
story number 1: Its a beautiful sunday morning so this wife decides to wake up a lil early and prepare breakfast for her husband in bed...aaww cute right? so her husband wakes up, and realizes that his wife is not in bed but he smells the sweet aroma of food being cooked. so he walks up into the kitchen, kisses his wife goodmorning. he then asks ..what's for breakfast? she says..well its a surprise hun. so he goes ahead and said ..mm sounds good. but while you making breakfast could you please make me two eggs? one scrambled and one boiled...the wife said ok. SO this chic..whips up some good yummy breakfast, set the table and when the husband sat down to eat. he looks right into his wife's face and utters these words :" honey you boiled the wrong egg"........*awkward silence*-------------* cricket chirp noise*.....WHAT THE HECK? HOW DID SHE BOIL THE WRONG EGG?
Moral of the story : Learn to appreciate the little that people do for you. This husband obviously is convolutted coz he didnt even think what the wife did what..all he could think about is "the egg"..out of 12 eggs how do you pick the wrong one?
Story number two: In the city of savannah, Georgia...A young couple bought their first home in a really upscale neighbourhood. lets name this family Mr and Mrs Brown. Six months later, their next door neighbour sold his house and therfore someone new moved in. We will name the new family the Perrys.So every morning, Mrs Perry ( the new family that moved in) would do laundry and hang it outside to air dry instead of using a drying machine. Mrs West would always look outside the window and see how dirty the newly washed clothes looked. So Mrs west always complained to her husband about how their new neighbour's wife is dirty and stingy and doesnt know how to wash clothes coz they always look so dirty on the clothes line. She even one day went next door and took her detergent thinking maybe mrs Perry could not afford detergent thats why her clothes looked so dirty.
Behold one morning Mrs West woke up and as usual she looked outside the window and saw Mrs Perry hanging her clothes. But what was different this time was her clothes were sparkly clean!!!!! she ran upstaris to her husband saying honey!! honey!!! guess what? our neighbour's clothes are finally clean!!! she must have used that detergent I took her!!!!...the husband looked her in the eye and said " No honey, thats because I woke early this morning and cleaned our windows".....WOW...see the problem was not that Mrs Perry didnt wash her clothes well...the problem was that the Wests' windows were so dirty so they reflected anything outside to be dirty.
Moral of the story...alot of times we tend to judge others and think we better than them. First things first...look deep innside yourself and analyze yourself before you can project your insecurities and judgments toward others. Alot of times the problem lies within you but we are too busy focusing on the wrong thing so we end up blaming others for our misfortunes or thinking we are better than them. Remove the log in your own eye first, before trying to remove the speck in someone else's eye.
Goodnight pals!!!!
Namaste!!!
Nov 16, 2010
A week to remember
BIG SIGH..Is friday here yet? its only Tuesday and my week is beyond CRAPPY!!!!! Join me as I complain and vent about life:
1.I am super super stressed. I know am sarcastic and I love to joke and play but seriously guys...whenver you find yourself praying please Don't forget to mention My name. And if you are the prayer-phobic type then just say something along the lines of " I hope all goes well with you Maserati". I can't remember the last time I was "normal". Io am so frustrated I could just burst. BUT...Thank "you" yeah "you"..you know yourself...for the starbucks coffee date tonight. Kinda took my mind off of crap.
I'm just burned out and I cant take it no more!!! *tear*
2. I Have gained 12 pounds since April. 12 ya'll. Its ridiculous. Good news is I am very much at peace with the fact that I am a thick girl. its ok, its alright. I embrace my extra layers and just live with it. Excuse me while I serve icecream...BITE ME
3.ok ya'll...this is serious. I am getting these really strange messages on facebook and it just proves to me that the number of perverts is increasing at an alarming rate. Just leave me alone!!!! where are all the normal men at? and uggh Mr right better hurry up coz this mess is for donkeys!!
4. So I've been getting lots of emails from my subscribers who most of em I have no clue who they are...about Advice on relationships, girl drama blah blah...Hmm..well I am really not eqipped with answers but I will try my best to tell you how I deal with my problems. But I gotta be honest..when it comes to relationships...oh boy am gullible and just ruthless AT THE SAME TIME!!! well I will be posting some of those questions and answers coz am sure some other readers can benefit from that.
5.Yesterday was my hair's birthday!!! I have named my hair porsche. Two months natural baby!!!!!! and oh for all them females that have been asking me about how I style my hair...I will email you guys!! Quick reminder though..I do not like the "round 70's style afro"..so just to warn you..my styles are very funky and out of the norm looking. I love that rough, cute but gangsta look. its 2010..ask Lady Gaga.
6. OMG!!! so I love bruno Mars new song.."grenade"..aaawwww...sooo cute!!! Sounds cheesy but hmm thats love right there...so here is my new fav list..ya'll better listen to these songs:
a. Rihanna ft drake..what's my name
b. black n yello- wiz khalifa
c. no hands-wale, wocka flocka and roscoe
d. Rihanna- Only girl in the world
7. Goodnight....as you can tell..I have nothing juicy to blog about..but trust me my nxt blog will blow your socks, under wear and bras off!!!! I have a migraine headache...uugghh....time to sob myself to sleep. BYE!!!
1.I am super super stressed. I know am sarcastic and I love to joke and play but seriously guys...whenver you find yourself praying please Don't forget to mention My name. And if you are the prayer-phobic type then just say something along the lines of " I hope all goes well with you Maserati". I can't remember the last time I was "normal". Io am so frustrated I could just burst. BUT...Thank "you" yeah "you"..you know yourself...for the starbucks coffee date tonight. Kinda took my mind off of crap.
I'm just burned out and I cant take it no more!!! *tear*
2. I Have gained 12 pounds since April. 12 ya'll. Its ridiculous. Good news is I am very much at peace with the fact that I am a thick girl. its ok, its alright. I embrace my extra layers and just live with it. Excuse me while I serve icecream...BITE ME
3.ok ya'll...this is serious. I am getting these really strange messages on facebook and it just proves to me that the number of perverts is increasing at an alarming rate. Just leave me alone!!!! where are all the normal men at? and uggh Mr right better hurry up coz this mess is for donkeys!!
4. So I've been getting lots of emails from my subscribers who most of em I have no clue who they are...about Advice on relationships, girl drama blah blah...Hmm..well I am really not eqipped with answers but I will try my best to tell you how I deal with my problems. But I gotta be honest..when it comes to relationships...oh boy am gullible and just ruthless AT THE SAME TIME!!! well I will be posting some of those questions and answers coz am sure some other readers can benefit from that.
5.Yesterday was my hair's birthday!!! I have named my hair porsche. Two months natural baby!!!!!! and oh for all them females that have been asking me about how I style my hair...I will email you guys!! Quick reminder though..I do not like the "round 70's style afro"..so just to warn you..my styles are very funky and out of the norm looking. I love that rough, cute but gangsta look. its 2010..ask Lady Gaga.
6. OMG!!! so I love bruno Mars new song.."grenade"..aaawwww...sooo cute!!! Sounds cheesy but hmm thats love right there...so here is my new fav list..ya'll better listen to these songs:
a. Rihanna ft drake..what's my name
b. black n yello- wiz khalifa
c. no hands-wale, wocka flocka and roscoe
d. Rihanna- Only girl in the world
7. Goodnight....as you can tell..I have nothing juicy to blog about..but trust me my nxt blog will blow your socks, under wear and bras off!!!! I have a migraine headache...uugghh....time to sob myself to sleep. BYE!!!
Nov 14, 2010
FAQ's
Here’s a list of common questions/emails I get. They’re not quite the norm I must say. But have no fear! I shall answer them all. Even the rude ones.
Q:You have a beautiful accent..where are you from ?
A :sigh..Kenya. We all have accents..when will you ever get it?
Q: Do you speak African?
A:No. do you speak American?
Q: How old are you? you look so young?
A: 24. I look young coz am young. how else do 24 yr olds look?
Q:Why pharmacy? just do nursing!
A: why are you talking to me? just SHUT UP
Q:Why are you single?
A:if I knew the answer to that question I would not be single would I? on the other hand...ask cupid
Q:How do you stay so strong and in control of yourself?
A:Don’t get it twisted, I lose control too. We all have our times when we fall apart and not feel strong. But what makes you move on is actually the inner strength you always had within. Just learn how to channel that same energy into bettering yourself and surviving out of your worst. I channel mine through music, going to church and shooting monkeys and jerks.
Q:I heard that you __________. Is that true?
A: Yup, it’s all true. That will always be my answer. I’ve realized that no matter what you say, people will still believe what they want. Regardless if the truth is staring right in your face. During my tenure on the world wide web, I’ve learned that people will judge you according to what was told to them. So why bother prove myself to anyone?
Remark:I can't stand you..
A :oh. that's too bad. you can sit me. There's always options!!
Q:Girl, let me tell what _____ said about you…
A: Actually, don’t. I’m well above that & frankly, I don’t care. oh but you can go tell whoever talked to you about me to shove it up where the sun doesnt shine. :)
Q:Do you believe in a higher power?
A:YES> GOD
Q:What do you bank success on?
A:When you finally have a true peace of mind.
Q:I just got of a relationship and I feel so lost. Where do I go from here?
A:Mapquest it
Q:Are you a virgin?
A : get a life.
Q: why did you breakup with your ex? Ya'll looked so good together!
A:He just wanted relations...not a relationship!!
Q: What advice can you give a young lady trying to figure out if this dude is right for her or not?
A: Pray!!. Do not settle for anything less that what you dream of. never ignore those redflags. pay close attention to how he interacts with your family. If he tells you he loves you and he barely knows you.. RUN!! If he is rushing things it means he is PLAYER! If he stands you up on a date it means he is on a date with another FEMALE!!! if his actions dnt match his words it means he is a JERK.
Q: how many boyfriends have you had?
A: get a job and stop worrying about me
Q: do you smoke?
A: who the hell wants to die of lung cancer?
Q: do you drink?
A: Yes, water with lemon is always perfect!
Q: Am looking for a wife..are you the one?
A : I was looking for a jerk. I think I found you.
Q: Q: I don’t see what’s the big deal about you & your blog. Every time I come here I’m not impressed.
A: Ok. So why you keep coming back?
Q: Do you have any kids?
A: NO
Q: have you found a boyfriend yet? I will break a neck if someone hurts you. Just coz we broke up doesnt mean I dont care.
A: Obviously someone forgot to break YOUR neck when you hurt me. I dont need a boyfriend. I need a MAN
Q: Do you still have feelings for your ex?
A: DO pigs fly?
Q: Have you ever considered writing books? Your blogs are amazing!
A: I thought about it. Thats all I can say.
Q:You have a beautiful accent..where are you from ?
A :sigh..Kenya. We all have accents..when will you ever get it?
Q: Do you speak African?
A:No. do you speak American?
Q: How old are you? you look so young?
A: 24. I look young coz am young. how else do 24 yr olds look?
Q:Why pharmacy? just do nursing!
A: why are you talking to me? just SHUT UP
Q:Why are you single?
A:if I knew the answer to that question I would not be single would I? on the other hand...ask cupid
Q:How do you stay so strong and in control of yourself?
A:Don’t get it twisted, I lose control too. We all have our times when we fall apart and not feel strong. But what makes you move on is actually the inner strength you always had within. Just learn how to channel that same energy into bettering yourself and surviving out of your worst. I channel mine through music, going to church and shooting monkeys and jerks.
Q:I heard that you __________. Is that true?
A: Yup, it’s all true. That will always be my answer. I’ve realized that no matter what you say, people will still believe what they want. Regardless if the truth is staring right in your face. During my tenure on the world wide web, I’ve learned that people will judge you according to what was told to them. So why bother prove myself to anyone?
Remark:I can't stand you..
A :oh. that's too bad. you can sit me. There's always options!!
Q:Girl, let me tell what _____ said about you…
A: Actually, don’t. I’m well above that & frankly, I don’t care. oh but you can go tell whoever talked to you about me to shove it up where the sun doesnt shine. :)
Q:Do you believe in a higher power?
A:YES> GOD
Q:What do you bank success on?
A:When you finally have a true peace of mind.
Q:I just got of a relationship and I feel so lost. Where do I go from here?
A:Mapquest it
Q:Are you a virgin?
A : get a life.
Q: why did you breakup with your ex? Ya'll looked so good together!
A:He just wanted relations...not a relationship!!
Q: What advice can you give a young lady trying to figure out if this dude is right for her or not?
A: Pray!!. Do not settle for anything less that what you dream of. never ignore those redflags. pay close attention to how he interacts with your family. If he tells you he loves you and he barely knows you.. RUN!! If he is rushing things it means he is PLAYER! If he stands you up on a date it means he is on a date with another FEMALE!!! if his actions dnt match his words it means he is a JERK.
Q: how many boyfriends have you had?
A: get a job and stop worrying about me
Q: do you smoke?
A: who the hell wants to die of lung cancer?
Q: do you drink?
A: Yes, water with lemon is always perfect!
Q: Am looking for a wife..are you the one?
A : I was looking for a jerk. I think I found you.
Q: Q: I don’t see what’s the big deal about you & your blog. Every time I come here I’m not impressed.
A: Ok. So why you keep coming back?
Q: Do you have any kids?
A: NO
Q: have you found a boyfriend yet? I will break a neck if someone hurts you. Just coz we broke up doesnt mean I dont care.
A: Obviously someone forgot to break YOUR neck when you hurt me. I dont need a boyfriend. I need a MAN
Q: Do you still have feelings for your ex?
A: DO pigs fly?
Q: Have you ever considered writing books? Your blogs are amazing!
A: I thought about it. Thats all I can say.
Nov 10, 2010
Here we Go again...sigh
Hey People!! yep! I know I have been M.I.A for a while...worry not..am back!! This past week has been hectic. Bday plans, school, projects, the list goes on. SO yeah speaking of ..I am doing my Ochem homework and blogging at the same time!!! HA..BEAST MODE!!!!!!!! By the way.. I had A good Bday weekend... HAD FUN! Big thank you to all those that showed up and celebrated with Lala and I we really appreciate it. Dinner was GREAT!!!
BIG shout out to DJ Josh for making those reservations for us at Nai. WE REALLY APPRECIATE IT!!!! U R THE BEST!!!. and omg THE NUMEROUS BBDAY SHOUTOUTS AT NAI..DANG..WHAT A NIGHT!
So anyways, Tonight am here to rant and vent about life. No life is not fair. Aspiration is suckers and oh FYI life doesnt get better,only your perception of life improves...having said that...lets dig in :
Sometimes I wonder about myself. Am I normal? yes..atleast that's what I think. Am I perfect..NO..who is? So I think I have reached a point in life where am facing my fears. I am afraid to do so coz facing your fears includes opening up and allowing myself to be vulnerable...thats a HUGE risk. Experience has taught me that opening up can be disastrous. Why am i saying this? coz it is. So let me paint the picture for those that are lost here:
Female, 5' 6", medium-dark complexion, pre-pharmacy student, hopefully starting my Doctor of pharmacy and PhD program nxt year..yes I will do a joint degree..why? coz am an over achiever....24, single (YES), accomplished a few things in life but not where I want to be, they call her maserati or Lynn and oh yeah Has had several unsuccesful, horrid relationsips and hhmm maybe 1 or 2 "good" ones. not bad right ? BLAH. so am sure you going uuhhh so what is she rambling about? i have one major problem...TRUST!! I think I've always been fearful of really feeling. Fearful of letting someone know what's in my head, what makes me tick. I think I took some kind of comfort in someone wondering what I was about, because I rather be a mystery than be open. Because when you're open, people can really do some damage to you, and then you start to regret unlocking that door in the first place...I have learned the hard way. TO be honest...I met this one guy and yes we dated for a lil while and ha stupid me thought he was "the one" and whats funny is he is the only guy that made me feel like I was also his "one" am so glad am wise now....not mentioning names and He is the ONLY guy that I truly opened up to and just let him into my world. I mean I just let it all out and I trusted him coz he made me feel like I could trust him... Boy wasnt I wrong!!!! Lets just say I hope is he happy where is at. Do I regret opening up to him? a little..not gonna lie... but oh well it is what it is. At the same time you cant live all your life worried about people and whether or not they gonna let you down or not.
We all want that perfect life...that great boyfriend, good job, lots of money, blah blah but truth is..there is a thick line between fantasy and reality. I mean I feel like I have met great people whom I just refuse to give a chance and then the minute I say to myself..am gonna give "this one" a try...HA. CHINEKE OH!! Thats the dude that just does you damage. You pls God, give me the serenity to know the difference between the good and Bad. I'm honestly sick of getting hurt...its stupid!!!! After 24 years of being a resident of utopia and living the fantasy life..its about time I snap into reality.
I have decided to:
Face myself
Confront
Open up
Experience
Feel
take chances
Accept
have faith
Let go
Let God.
NAMASTE!!!!!!!!
BIG shout out to DJ Josh for making those reservations for us at Nai. WE REALLY APPRECIATE IT!!!! U R THE BEST!!!. and omg THE NUMEROUS BBDAY SHOUTOUTS AT NAI..DANG..WHAT A NIGHT!
So anyways, Tonight am here to rant and vent about life. No life is not fair. Aspiration is suckers and oh FYI life doesnt get better,only your perception of life improves...having said that...lets dig in :
Sometimes I wonder about myself. Am I normal? yes..atleast that's what I think. Am I perfect..NO..who is? So I think I have reached a point in life where am facing my fears. I am afraid to do so coz facing your fears includes opening up and allowing myself to be vulnerable...thats a HUGE risk. Experience has taught me that opening up can be disastrous. Why am i saying this? coz it is. So let me paint the picture for those that are lost here:
Female, 5' 6", medium-dark complexion, pre-pharmacy student, hopefully starting my Doctor of pharmacy and PhD program nxt year..yes I will do a joint degree..why? coz am an over achiever....24, single (YES), accomplished a few things in life but not where I want to be, they call her maserati or Lynn and oh yeah Has had several unsuccesful, horrid relationsips and hhmm maybe 1 or 2 "good" ones. not bad right ? BLAH. so am sure you going uuhhh so what is she rambling about? i have one major problem...TRUST!! I think I've always been fearful of really feeling. Fearful of letting someone know what's in my head, what makes me tick. I think I took some kind of comfort in someone wondering what I was about, because I rather be a mystery than be open. Because when you're open, people can really do some damage to you, and then you start to regret unlocking that door in the first place...I have learned the hard way. TO be honest...I met this one guy and yes we dated for a lil while and ha stupid me thought he was "the one" and whats funny is he is the only guy that made me feel like I was also his "one" am so glad am wise now....not mentioning names and He is the ONLY guy that I truly opened up to and just let him into my world. I mean I just let it all out and I trusted him coz he made me feel like I could trust him... Boy wasnt I wrong!!!! Lets just say I hope is he happy where is at. Do I regret opening up to him? a little..not gonna lie... but oh well it is what it is. At the same time you cant live all your life worried about people and whether or not they gonna let you down or not.
We all want that perfect life...that great boyfriend, good job, lots of money, blah blah but truth is..there is a thick line between fantasy and reality. I mean I feel like I have met great people whom I just refuse to give a chance and then the minute I say to myself..am gonna give "this one" a try...HA. CHINEKE OH!! Thats the dude that just does you damage. You pls God, give me the serenity to know the difference between the good and Bad. I'm honestly sick of getting hurt...its stupid!!!! After 24 years of being a resident of utopia and living the fantasy life..its about time I snap into reality.
I have decided to:
Face myself
Confront
Open up
Experience
Feel
take chances
Accept
have faith
Let go
Let God.
NAMASTE!!!!!!!!
Nov 2, 2010
Behold, A child was born
It’s time to celebrate the “Year of New Beginnings” with a
renewed mind to do all things which glorify God. All too often
we celebrate birthdays, holidays, and other milestones that focus
on the individual—not God. We must be mindful that God is the
Creator of all things and without Him NOTHING is possible! His Word
tells us to be on one accord in all that we do.
It was a beautiful sunday, 24 years ago at Uasin Gishu District hospital in the Beautiful town of Eldoret, Kenya That a beautiful, bouncy baby girl was born. They named her Linda Rebecca Masitsa Juma. *tear drop* and the rest is history. *smiley face*
I just want to give praise and honor to the Lord God Almighty for giving me 24 years of life! Dear God: Thank you!! I am not alive today because am better than anyone or I deserve it. No, Its only by your grace and mercy!! Let this new year of life be different oh father and just let me live according to your will.
Second of all, Big shout out to my Parents (like duh? they are the reason to my existence)...Nuff said. Another big shout out to my grandparents, siblings and the rest of the family. I love ya'll...we definitely aint perfect but at the end of it all...I have yall and we are family.
I think am having a mid-twenties crisis! Like as much as am excited about my bday am also like uuhhmm What? 6 years from being 30 years old? not happenning! I was just 17 yesterday!!!! But am loving it! I kinda have to get used to saying am 24..sigh..WOW, 24 years old! this lil hottie is getting older Ya'll. I am actually going through my photos from when I was barely months old, to when I started walking, kindergarten, primary school ( or as they call it in Obamaland : ELEMENTARY SCHOOL), then highschool then now ( eeek). Memories, memories, I gotta admit I was such A cute kiddo..I don't mean to toot my horn but since NO one is I'll go ahead and Blow my own trumpet :I LINDA MASERATI COCOA JUMA was a cutie..Cute as a button!!!!!! yes I said it!
Am soo looking to this weekend though...My girl Lala and I are having a joint Bday celebration so yeah the Girls and I are def gonna have fun AND OFCOURSE WITH THE FAMILY TOO!!!!
So yeah I really have nothing to say!! am ALL SMILES!!!!! ITS MY BDAY, ITS MY BDAY, ITS MY BDAY!!!! no wait...lets remix this:
1. I throw my hands up in the air sometimes saying ayyooooo, its my Birthdaaaaay! am gonna celebrate and live my life saying ayyooooooo its my birthday!
2. There goes miss Liiinnnndaaaaa....ooohh girl look at me....you don't know how good it feels to say its my Day!! there goes masseerattiiiiiiii...loving every sec of this day, oohh am on top of the world!!
Ok enuff!! thanks for the Many many txts, calls, skype msgs, fb msgs, emails..e.t.c wishing me a happy birthday! Gosh I feel loved and appreciated and no words can express how Thankful I am. Thanks for being part of this day and May the Lord God almight Bless you abunduntly...I love you ALL.
Ok home skillets..time for Birthday gal to take herself to bed now!!! GOODBYE!!!!! GOD IS GOOD PEOPLE!! GOOD IS GOOD!!!!
renewed mind to do all things which glorify God. All too often
we celebrate birthdays, holidays, and other milestones that focus
on the individual—not God. We must be mindful that God is the
Creator of all things and without Him NOTHING is possible! His Word
tells us to be on one accord in all that we do.
It was a beautiful sunday, 24 years ago at Uasin Gishu District hospital in the Beautiful town of Eldoret, Kenya That a beautiful, bouncy baby girl was born. They named her Linda Rebecca Masitsa Juma. *tear drop* and the rest is history. *smiley face*
I just want to give praise and honor to the Lord God Almighty for giving me 24 years of life! Dear God: Thank you!! I am not alive today because am better than anyone or I deserve it. No, Its only by your grace and mercy!! Let this new year of life be different oh father and just let me live according to your will.
Second of all, Big shout out to my Parents (like duh? they are the reason to my existence)...Nuff said. Another big shout out to my grandparents, siblings and the rest of the family. I love ya'll...we definitely aint perfect but at the end of it all...I have yall and we are family.
I think am having a mid-twenties crisis! Like as much as am excited about my bday am also like uuhhmm What? 6 years from being 30 years old? not happenning! I was just 17 yesterday!!!! But am loving it! I kinda have to get used to saying am 24..sigh..WOW, 24 years old! this lil hottie is getting older Ya'll. I am actually going through my photos from when I was barely months old, to when I started walking, kindergarten, primary school ( or as they call it in Obamaland : ELEMENTARY SCHOOL), then highschool then now ( eeek). Memories, memories, I gotta admit I was such A cute kiddo..I don't mean to toot my horn but since NO one is I'll go ahead and Blow my own trumpet :I LINDA MASERATI COCOA JUMA was a cutie..Cute as a button!!!!!! yes I said it!
Am soo looking to this weekend though...My girl Lala and I are having a joint Bday celebration so yeah the Girls and I are def gonna have fun AND OFCOURSE WITH THE FAMILY TOO!!!!
So yeah I really have nothing to say!! am ALL SMILES!!!!! ITS MY BDAY, ITS MY BDAY, ITS MY BDAY!!!! no wait...lets remix this:
1. I throw my hands up in the air sometimes saying ayyooooo, its my Birthdaaaaay! am gonna celebrate and live my life saying ayyooooooo its my birthday!
2. There goes miss Liiinnnndaaaaa....ooohh girl look at me....you don't know how good it feels to say its my Day!! there goes masseerattiiiiiiii...loving every sec of this day, oohh am on top of the world!!
Ok enuff!! thanks for the Many many txts, calls, skype msgs, fb msgs, emails..e.t.c wishing me a happy birthday! Gosh I feel loved and appreciated and no words can express how Thankful I am. Thanks for being part of this day and May the Lord God almight Bless you abunduntly...I love you ALL.
Ok home skillets..time for Birthday gal to take herself to bed now!!! GOODBYE!!!!! GOD IS GOOD PEOPLE!! GOOD IS GOOD!!!!
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