"Why are you single ?" is the most popular question I get almost everyday of my life. Its just a default question. Well If I knew why am single I would not be single right? I mean that's like asking me why am black..why don't you ask my parents? I just found myself black. Now people take this whole single train to a whole new level of desperation. Just coz I don't have "Reggie" or "Sean" by my side does not mean that am unhappy, or something is wrong..NO...am single because I have NOT found true love. I am single for the same reason the sky is blue and the grass is green. I was having a convo with this stranger I ran into on campus. He "saw" me and I think he "liked" what he saw so he decided to "holla" at me. and his first question was "why you walking alone lil shawty...I thought you was here with you man or dip or somebady"...by the way guys...never cal me lil shawty coz I HATE being called that. SO I responded and said well am single...he opened his eyes as if he had been stricken with lightining.." watchu mean you is single? I mean you look good...body banging and ish...cute behind..matter fact imma call you bubble booty or better yet bubble butt"...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.....THAT REALLY ANGERED ME!!!! Take your ghetto self home...uugghhh and for some reason his cologne smelled like NARNIA...anyways...I do not have a definite answer why am single. But I have reasons and here we go:
TOP REASONS WHY AM SINGLE :
1. Cupid has been shooting those arrows at a bad angle. So yeah when I actually think of love and romance,the last thing on my mind is a chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon.....oh well.
2. I'm single coz am stubborn (in a good way). I REFUSE to lower my standards for ANY man. I have done that in the past and look where it led me...BEING SINGLE AGAIN.I am not experiment-driven..this is not a science lab..its real life. I will not date you just coz I wanna "see how it goes" or I just want to "use" you. NO. I will be 24 soon so that teenage fiznuck is DONE!! am looking for someone who keeps it real. The minute I find out you a LIAR and a PLAYER..R.I.P coz you are DEAD to me....
3. I'm single coz I have an obsession with a "classy, intelligent man"..let me make this clear...By classy I simply mean a man of good character, no grillz in your mouth, no thug-like attitude, no ghetto talk, clean shaven brutha or any other race who strives towards leading a good life. You do not have to drive a mercedes or BMW, NO. as long as you trying and making an effort..am all for that! That does not mean I've always been with classy men. NO. and I repeat NO.. NO and once again NO.
4. I'm single coz my vision about my future is GRAND! My significant other has to understand that I have been working on my dream my whole life and he has to be able and willing to be there for me emotionally..notice I did not say financially coz guess what? I DON'T WANT YOUR MONEY! And I will also support you in your efforts towards having a better future. you just cant come in my life and have it your way and want this and make me put my plans on hold..NO..this aint burger king fool, so you cannot have it your way. Its about "us", not you and I...US baby..US..get it?
5. I'm single because lets face it...good men..especially good black me are hard to find. But thank you Lord for my open mind coz am not even waiting for a black man. Yes, I prefer chocolate. I love me Black men but guess what? There's other races too. SO I will not just let a chance by simply because am waiting for that hood rat broad! no. But back to my point..I like a guy that will challenge me, someone spontaneous, fun, interesting..in a good way. Now I don't mean you go 2 weeks without calling and come back with a lame-butt story and think that's being spontaneous...NO you being RUDE and Insensitive and a JERK ( yes I said it. go tell yo momma if u want). I want a guy that inspires me.. and I will inspire you.
6. I am single coz I will not allow ANYONE to make me feel like am not important or worthy. Once again...I have traveled down that road and never again. am not perfect, I migght not be Halle Berry, or Beyonce ( I got her hips tho..whoop whoop..jk)...or whoever you so hold your standard to. BUT TO ME, I am the BOMB! end of story.
7. I have ZERO tolerance for ignorance . I am allergic to ignorance and I cannot stand ignorant men who walk around thinking they are the ish when in reality they just suck! thats my opinion by the way. you might not agree with me but opinions are like elbows..we all have em. so yeah if you are ignorant then you suck! TO ME.
8. I am single coz I want you to teach me or I teach you something you already don't know. show me something I have not seen or experienced before. It does not have to be financial, or physical ..DO it mentally and emotionally. Show me we are in this together. Be there 100 % and i will be there 100 %...this is all that matters.
9. Am single coz am gullible. I don't trust easily. Experience has taught me that men lie easily..with a straight face..so I keep my emotions a secret and I tend to just not believe what they tell me. In other words I have built a 7 layer brick wall around my heart.
10. Finally..am single because am working on being the BEST girlfriend, wife, whatever I can ever be. Nuff said. I refuse to define myself by anything, other than THE BEST!!!
Am alone but not lonely...so do not get it twisted. Am still open to options. Being single and an emotionally healthy woman is not a curse. Its a blessing in disguise. I have learned GREAT lessons that I have enabled me to lead a better life today. Am single because I am able to be. Its my choice and am happy with it. When I wake up every morning, I look in the mirror and I LOVE what I see. I thank GOD for ending all my past relationships because even though at the time I thought I was happy and in love. No..I was miserable and in unhealthy relationships. superficial love is not my cup of tea..that's for the vultures.
THERE YOU HAVE IT!!!!
Oct 26, 2010
Oct 25, 2010
ITS A CRISIS!!!!!
Lately I've been going through a healthy life-style crisis. Knowledge is power..so for those that don't know..I recently went natural. I ended my horrible, abusive marriage to relaxers and I CUT my hair into a teeny weeny afro. So I started researching on "good" products to use on hair and in the process I learned that almost 98% of the products in the market right now contain HARMFUL ingredients that is not only BAD for your hair and scalp, but also carcinogenic (cancer causing)...SIGH..Are you ready for this? SOME of these ingredients are actually present in some food items...GO FIGURE!! and some of these foods actually claim to be "natural" and I was like hmmmm I gotta find out some more info. SO for the past one month I have been spending time researching on the whole "natural" vs "organic" craze and here we go. I am about to BURST your bubble : Natural and organic ARE NOT..I repeat ARE NOT! the same thing. Consumers are misled, mis-advised, mis-educated, misinformed, misguided, mis-communicated, mis-conceived misdirected – well you get the idea – the American people have failed to notice what the food industry is doing to them. We need to wake up and SEEK THE TRUTH and see what the world is becoming.
Natural just simply means produced or existing in nature! see...that simple! It other words..mother nature!!
In the food industry today, there's NO official definition of "all natural." It means whatever the food companies want it to mean. It can mean, for example, that all the chemicals found in the product simply aren't listed on the label. (There's no requirement for food companies to list chemical contaminants found in their foods.) According to the FDA – their definition of “natural”…Natural foods are processed without preservatives or additives, but may have been grown with the use of pesticides or other conventional methods. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) regulates the term ‘natural’ only as it applies to added color, synthetic substances, and flavors. Meaning..A food label that says "natural" can actually contain ingredients that are not included on the label...including harmful synthetics, and polymers used as preservatives and EVEN a monkey's BUTT..just anything guys!!!
Infact I was at Kroger and saw a bag of cheetos with a label that said natural. Now as I just defined above..Cheetos DO not exist in nature. I have never come about a cheetos tree or pringles leaves or better yet.. I have NEVER heard of or seen lake Koolaid. But since they used vegetable oil derived from a Plant and they also used water in the process of making cheetos and other snacks the FDA claims its OK to say cheetos or fanta, or pepsi are natural.
On the other hand the production of organic foods helps to honor the balance of nature through “old fashioned” farming methods. Conventional pesticides, synthetic fertilizers, antibiotics and growth hormones are never used on organic farms. Instead, they use renewable resources and focus on soil and water conservation to help preserve the environment for future generations.Organic farming is also regulated by the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA) according to strict quality standards for growing and handling. To locate USDA Certified Organic products in the store, look for the USDA seal which ensures the product is 95-100% organic.
Food companies know that most people do not know the difference between these two terms, and most people equate natural to healthy.. NO. Be a smart consumer..READ THE INGREDIENT LABELS!!!! DO not just fall for advertisement. " NATURAL CANDY", "NATURAL POTATO CHIPS".. UNLESS YOU PLANTED THE "CHIPS" THEN ITS NOT NATURAL. SO yeah thats my haul and rant about FALSE marketing and food labeling in America. its angers me very much!!! IN OTHER WORDS : UNLESS IT CAME STRAIGHT FROM MOTHER NATURE'S BUTT TO YOUR PLATE THEN ITS JUST NOT THAT GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!
And as far as my hair goes..I found several organic..yes organic hair care products but I chose to try out the Shea moisture products line...ITS AMAZING!!! All natural and organic ingredients...and its affordable. COz there is no way in hell am paying 20 bucks for an organic hair product!! NO NO NO...but shea moisture products are great and you can find them at TARGET!!! (yeah baby) for only 9.99...can all the college students say AMEN PLEASE? this product line is great for both men and women and they do carry facial body and hair products.... http://www.sheamoisture.com/ If you wanna order online!!
And that my earthlings is the end of my rant. I mean cancer is on the rise and am just trying to take steps towards a healthy, lifestyle...which by the way for those that DO not know...I have been flexitarian for a year now..meaning am not 100% vegeterian yet. I only eat meat when am eating out or visting someone. But at home..we do cook meat like once a month. hopefully I will be 100 % vegeterian but GOD knows I love me some fried chicken ( I live up to my tribe's stereotype)..and BEEF..oh lawd!!!! Anywho, we shall see how that goes.
P.S I have gained 12..yes you heard me 12 pounds since April...sigh!! No am not obese and am not fat.."fat" is NEVER used in my vocabulary. I am just a thickum. I got sum sum extra.. kinda like "extra fudge chocolate cake. Its still chocolate cake BUT with a extra fudge...hhmmm am still " Linda" with just extra toppings. And am supposed to be training for my second half marathon which is not going very well!! I gotta get back in shape ASAP!!!
GOODNIGHT EVERYONE!!!
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Natural just simply means produced or existing in nature! see...that simple! It other words..mother nature!!
In the food industry today, there's NO official definition of "all natural." It means whatever the food companies want it to mean. It can mean, for example, that all the chemicals found in the product simply aren't listed on the label. (There's no requirement for food companies to list chemical contaminants found in their foods.) According to the FDA – their definition of “natural”…Natural foods are processed without preservatives or additives, but may have been grown with the use of pesticides or other conventional methods. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) regulates the term ‘natural’ only as it applies to added color, synthetic substances, and flavors. Meaning..A food label that says "natural" can actually contain ingredients that are not included on the label...including harmful synthetics, and polymers used as preservatives and EVEN a monkey's BUTT..just anything guys!!!
Infact I was at Kroger and saw a bag of cheetos with a label that said natural. Now as I just defined above..Cheetos DO not exist in nature. I have never come about a cheetos tree or pringles leaves or better yet.. I have NEVER heard of or seen lake Koolaid. But since they used vegetable oil derived from a Plant and they also used water in the process of making cheetos and other snacks the FDA claims its OK to say cheetos or fanta, or pepsi are natural.
On the other hand the production of organic foods helps to honor the balance of nature through “old fashioned” farming methods. Conventional pesticides, synthetic fertilizers, antibiotics and growth hormones are never used on organic farms. Instead, they use renewable resources and focus on soil and water conservation to help preserve the environment for future generations.Organic farming is also regulated by the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA) according to strict quality standards for growing and handling. To locate USDA Certified Organic products in the store, look for the USDA seal which ensures the product is 95-100% organic.
Food companies know that most people do not know the difference between these two terms, and most people equate natural to healthy.. NO. Be a smart consumer..READ THE INGREDIENT LABELS!!!! DO not just fall for advertisement. " NATURAL CANDY", "NATURAL POTATO CHIPS".. UNLESS YOU PLANTED THE "CHIPS" THEN ITS NOT NATURAL. SO yeah thats my haul and rant about FALSE marketing and food labeling in America. its angers me very much!!! IN OTHER WORDS : UNLESS IT CAME STRAIGHT FROM MOTHER NATURE'S BUTT TO YOUR PLATE THEN ITS JUST NOT THAT GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!
And as far as my hair goes..I found several organic..yes organic hair care products but I chose to try out the Shea moisture products line...ITS AMAZING!!! All natural and organic ingredients...and its affordable. COz there is no way in hell am paying 20 bucks for an organic hair product!! NO NO NO...but shea moisture products are great and you can find them at TARGET!!! (yeah baby) for only 9.99...can all the college students say AMEN PLEASE? this product line is great for both men and women and they do carry facial body and hair products.... http://www.sheamoisture.com/ If you wanna order online!!
And that my earthlings is the end of my rant. I mean cancer is on the rise and am just trying to take steps towards a healthy, lifestyle...which by the way for those that DO not know...I have been flexitarian for a year now..meaning am not 100% vegeterian yet. I only eat meat when am eating out or visting someone. But at home..we do cook meat like once a month. hopefully I will be 100 % vegeterian but GOD knows I love me some fried chicken ( I live up to my tribe's stereotype)..and BEEF..oh lawd!!!! Anywho, we shall see how that goes.
P.S I have gained 12..yes you heard me 12 pounds since April...sigh!! No am not obese and am not fat.."fat" is NEVER used in my vocabulary. I am just a thickum. I got sum sum extra.. kinda like "extra fudge chocolate cake. Its still chocolate cake BUT with a extra fudge...hhmmm am still " Linda" with just extra toppings. And am supposed to be training for my second half marathon which is not going very well!! I gotta get back in shape ASAP!!!
GOODNIGHT EVERYONE!!!
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Oct 21, 2010
Lets talk Black
Someone just asked me yesterday why black women are so angry! Well thats a good question but sad enough I didnt have the answer because I really do not fall into that stereotype. Ok I do have my "moments" where am just moody, agitated, ( yes we all do.so dont even think about judging me)..whatever but am not an angry person! But that question really made me think..hhmmm you know what? this is something juicy to blog about..just black people in general.
I have my own gripe about black men..but oh well..that requires a whole year for me to vent about "those" men. So yeah back to angry black women....not all black women are angry but some of them are. Its almost like "we" ( i use we because am black, but not because am full of drama...) always have our defenses up...."what did you say? Did she just?... oh Hell NAW!!!! Tasha..hold my purse while i take care of biznizz"...*walk towards individual and snaps her fingers with fake nails*..."Now you listen up B***...you do not...."...yeah we have all seen this stuff....Now theres is a difference between being a no nonsense kinda girl and just being plain old full of drama. Some people need to chill. Theres more to life than popping gum, snapping fingers rolling eyes and twirling your bad weave. CALM THE DEUCE DOWN!!! ITS NOT THAT BAD OK???!!!
SO how about the black women who always complain about "I don't got a man"..well have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, if you opened up to dating other races you would have a man? Listen...am not trying to bash your preference..coz I know some women who straight up just lke chocolate. NO VANILLA!! and thats ok! but If you dont have a man right now..just calm down..MR right is coming..he just got lost or maybe he stopped at popeyes to getchu some fried chikin ok? Ok seriously..alot of us (irregardless of race) tend to just over complain about being single and we get desperate. SO what happens when you get desperate? you settle for anything with a tail and you end up being hurt! Love takes time...gosh dont I just know this oh too well now! Do not rush. Keep it cool. Pray about it and you will find mr right. stop falling for these hood rats!!! And I know some girls are bitter coz some guy cheated on her and she just thinks all men cheat! well technically they do (oh boy) But Not really....do you get it? ah whatever! and uuuuuuuu here is some advice to all my sistas : I know we all wanna have this "I dnt take sh*t from men" kinda attitude and we go overboard with it. hence when we even find out that "he" was cheating on you with "her" we call "her " up and try and start drama...NOOOOOOOOOOO. Let her have him!!!! ITs good to donate to charity once in a while! JEEZ!
You know whats funny tho? Most black men DO NOT like intelligent, confident BLACK women....hmm I wonder why? well I think its coz opposites attract!!...NO offense but its kinda true. Its ridiculous!!SO what happens? Ladies will lower thier standards just so to attract this one BROAD!!!!..FREEEEAAAKKKK THAT!!!! Stop the madness.
So this one if for all black people in general : stop complainin about race ALL the time! yes I know its hard being a black person in America but truly speaking..must everythiung that doesnt go your way have to be blamed on race? hmmm thats something for you to think about!
Oh well...Its bed time for me. I could jibber jabber all night long about black people and their stereotypes! I just need to write a book. oh before I sleep...so one of my homeboys called me up tonight and was like he wants to set up a blind date for me! am like what the deuce man? Now I have never been on a blind date but am not too crazy about em either. Number one...am just a weird kinda girl. I am just easily amused but not easily impressed. It takes alot to get on my O WOW list. But again...I tend to be attracted to guys that are just bad news for me. I mean for realz...the kind of guys that put D is dissaster. The ones your mama warned you about....YEA THOSE! and right now am at a point where getting in a sertious relationship is not on top my list. I just wanna kick it and have fun for a lil bit...with normal people not creepers!!! so my conclusion: NO BLIND DATE!! ugghh that sounds mean...Ok to be fair I will pray about it and see what God says! I just hate first dates...so uncomfortable and...ggrrrrrrr
announcement : Pls pls pls..am beggin you...do not give out my number to your friends in a ttempt to try and hook me up. no no no.that mess has resulted into my life being miserable coz I have STALKERS!!!! NO BUENO!!! consult with me before giving out my number coz am done with this fiznuck!!!
My Bday is coming up!!!!! nuff said!!! Lets just say am ready to boogie woogie!!!!!!
Big shout out to my homeboy LEWIS!!! ...good stuff happening to him right now but I cannot share (sorry guys!) GOD JUST OPENED THOSE SHOWERS OF BLESSING IN HIS LIFE!!!
Am soo happy for you buddy!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!! ♥♥...AAWWW Am too excited and it aint even my life! but thats what friends are for right????.............. RIGHT!!!!!!!
song of the day.."gonorrhea" by lil waybe featuring Drake!
I have my own gripe about black men..but oh well..that requires a whole year for me to vent about "those" men. So yeah back to angry black women....not all black women are angry but some of them are. Its almost like "we" ( i use we because am black, but not because am full of drama...) always have our defenses up...."what did you say? Did she just?... oh Hell NAW!!!! Tasha..hold my purse while i take care of biznizz"...*walk towards individual and snaps her fingers with fake nails*..."Now you listen up B***...you do not...."...yeah we have all seen this stuff....Now theres is a difference between being a no nonsense kinda girl and just being plain old full of drama. Some people need to chill. Theres more to life than popping gum, snapping fingers rolling eyes and twirling your bad weave. CALM THE DEUCE DOWN!!! ITS NOT THAT BAD OK???!!!
SO how about the black women who always complain about "I don't got a man"..well have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, if you opened up to dating other races you would have a man? Listen...am not trying to bash your preference..coz I know some women who straight up just lke chocolate. NO VANILLA!! and thats ok! but If you dont have a man right now..just calm down..MR right is coming..he just got lost or maybe he stopped at popeyes to getchu some fried chikin ok? Ok seriously..alot of us (irregardless of race) tend to just over complain about being single and we get desperate. SO what happens when you get desperate? you settle for anything with a tail and you end up being hurt! Love takes time...gosh dont I just know this oh too well now! Do not rush. Keep it cool. Pray about it and you will find mr right. stop falling for these hood rats!!! And I know some girls are bitter coz some guy cheated on her and she just thinks all men cheat! well technically they do (oh boy) But Not really....do you get it? ah whatever! and uuuuuuuu here is some advice to all my sistas : I know we all wanna have this "I dnt take sh*t from men" kinda attitude and we go overboard with it. hence when we even find out that "he" was cheating on you with "her" we call "her " up and try and start drama...NOOOOOOOOOOO. Let her have him!!!! ITs good to donate to charity once in a while! JEEZ!
You know whats funny tho? Most black men DO NOT like intelligent, confident BLACK women....hmm I wonder why? well I think its coz opposites attract!!...NO offense but its kinda true. Its ridiculous!!SO what happens? Ladies will lower thier standards just so to attract this one BROAD!!!!..FREEEEAAAKKKK THAT!!!! Stop the madness.
So this one if for all black people in general : stop complainin about race ALL the time! yes I know its hard being a black person in America but truly speaking..must everythiung that doesnt go your way have to be blamed on race? hmmm thats something for you to think about!
Oh well...Its bed time for me. I could jibber jabber all night long about black people and their stereotypes! I just need to write a book. oh before I sleep...so one of my homeboys called me up tonight and was like he wants to set up a blind date for me! am like what the deuce man? Now I have never been on a blind date but am not too crazy about em either. Number one...am just a weird kinda girl. I am just easily amused but not easily impressed. It takes alot to get on my O WOW list. But again...I tend to be attracted to guys that are just bad news for me. I mean for realz...the kind of guys that put D is dissaster. The ones your mama warned you about....YEA THOSE! and right now am at a point where getting in a sertious relationship is not on top my list. I just wanna kick it and have fun for a lil bit...with normal people not creepers!!! so my conclusion: NO BLIND DATE!! ugghh that sounds mean...Ok to be fair I will pray about it and see what God says! I just hate first dates...so uncomfortable and...ggrrrrrrr
announcement : Pls pls pls..am beggin you...do not give out my number to your friends in a ttempt to try and hook me up. no no no.that mess has resulted into my life being miserable coz I have STALKERS!!!! NO BUENO!!! consult with me before giving out my number coz am done with this fiznuck!!!
My Bday is coming up!!!!! nuff said!!! Lets just say am ready to boogie woogie!!!!!!
Big shout out to my homeboy LEWIS!!! ...good stuff happening to him right now but I cannot share (sorry guys!) GOD JUST OPENED THOSE SHOWERS OF BLESSING IN HIS LIFE!!!
Am soo happy for you buddy!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!! ♥♥...AAWWW Am too excited and it aint even my life! but thats what friends are for right????.............. RIGHT!!!!!!!
song of the day.."gonorrhea" by lil waybe featuring Drake!
Oct 18, 2010
EXTREMELY VEXED
Guess who has a sinus infection AGAIN?...yep..ME.ok seriously.. this is very frustrating. I was sick 2 weeks ago..NOW AGAIN??..NONESENSE. Anyways..I wanna apologize big time to ALL the people that are coming down with something all because they were around me :(..SORRY!!! how about we just dnt come in contact till we ALL get better?.Ok I will take that as a yes.
Why do people act so shady sometimes? Like for real, why can't you just be yourself?!!!!!???!!! Its very annoyning. For this life noh i nedi beg any person again massa... Some people them feel say them be some small god them or them go just force their will onto u... make dem go fall for lake or enter water bottle lock themselves for inside. If you no be my mami, my papa or my family and close friend sef no even feel say i di beg me any human again. Witch people dem di die quick if wona no know! ( ask for translation)
YES!! I am super livid right now!!! am mad, angry, irritated, frustrated, annoyed,..you name it! am sooo close to exploding its not even funny. ...anyways....I DONT KNOW WHAT I WAS EXPECTING. Seriously...I have stopped having faith in people and trusting people..PERIOD!!! Or maybe I just put my trust in the wrong people...I dont know! Oh well, I dont know what I think..I mean I am maserati trying to fit in with all these Kias and hyundais and pontiacs..like seriously? NO. its about high time I surround myself with Bentleys, and rolls royce, BMW's, Lamboghinis..e.t.c....What is the message here? AM getting rid of toxic, good for nothing, low life, scum bags who call themselves friends!! end of story.
So whats up with faceook these days? I have not 1, not 2, not 3, not 4, not 5, BUT 6..YES 6 stalkers!! Random people adding me, sending me weird mesages in shorthand english...by the way..am asking ALL kenyans to stop that MESS> what kind of english do you guys write? I know we have to abbreviate BUT DANG!!!! Yall just take it to a HO NATHA LEVEL!!!!! I can't understand you, yet you are constantly on my pics, or sending me messages. Ok listen, I was gonna delete my page but I have a Trilion cousins on facebook that I communicate with so I cannot do that. SO anyways.......yeah story of my life!! its amazing what a simple dress can do. A DRESS FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!! I even got a marriage proposal!!! this world is coming to an end oh!! JUST PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE STALKERS!!! IF YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO..GO KICK ROCKS, JUMP IN A SEWER OR JUST GET IN A WATER BOTTLE, FILL IT WITH WATER AND DROWN!!! JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!! LEAVE MY LIFE AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!!!!siiighhhhh...hhmmmm well maybe am HOT!!! who knows! but I hate the attention!! ok dont get me wrong.. I love attention but from normal guys!!! gosh!
In other news: I am loving my natural hair!!! I cant even tell you guys how much I love it!! I cant wait for it to be long again!!!
Sidenote : I ran into one of my subscribers today!!! I have never met her in my life..A friend of mine forwarded her one of my blogs and she fell in love with it ( it was that yummy blog about relationship rules...yeah I know am too hard on ppl when it comes to dating..oh well)...so she subscribed!! so am at spring creek campus..I had just finished chillaxing with one of my homeboys and as am walking to the library this random chic say hey you must be Linda...am like yeah and you are? she then introduced herself. See in one of my blogs I posted a picture of myself and she just linked the pic to my face...AAAAWWW I was sooo happy !!! we talked for like 30 mins and she sooooo has my personality!! hmmm lets just say a friendship has began; coz we having a coffee date on friday! and she is pre-pharmacy too!! like MEEEE..but she is a freshman!! Thank you Jesus for giving me this opportunity to meet another new person!! THANKS TO ALL MY SUBSCRIBERS!!! I SERIOUSLY HEART YOU GUYS!!!! THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT!!!! MUUUAAAHHHH
Anyways...Good night home skillets!!!!!!!
Why do people act so shady sometimes? Like for real, why can't you just be yourself?!!!!!???!!! Its very annoyning. For this life noh i nedi beg any person again massa... Some people them feel say them be some small god them or them go just force their will onto u... make dem go fall for lake or enter water bottle lock themselves for inside. If you no be my mami, my papa or my family and close friend sef no even feel say i di beg me any human again. Witch people dem di die quick if wona no know! ( ask for translation)
YES!! I am super livid right now!!! am mad, angry, irritated, frustrated, annoyed,..you name it! am sooo close to exploding its not even funny. ...anyways....I DONT KNOW WHAT I WAS EXPECTING. Seriously...I have stopped having faith in people and trusting people..PERIOD!!! Or maybe I just put my trust in the wrong people...I dont know! Oh well, I dont know what I think..I mean I am maserati trying to fit in with all these Kias and hyundais and pontiacs..like seriously? NO. its about high time I surround myself with Bentleys, and rolls royce, BMW's, Lamboghinis..e.t.c....What is the message here? AM getting rid of toxic, good for nothing, low life, scum bags who call themselves friends!! end of story.
So whats up with faceook these days? I have not 1, not 2, not 3, not 4, not 5, BUT 6..YES 6 stalkers!! Random people adding me, sending me weird mesages in shorthand english...by the way..am asking ALL kenyans to stop that MESS> what kind of english do you guys write? I know we have to abbreviate BUT DANG!!!! Yall just take it to a HO NATHA LEVEL!!!!! I can't understand you, yet you are constantly on my pics, or sending me messages. Ok listen, I was gonna delete my page but I have a Trilion cousins on facebook that I communicate with so I cannot do that. SO anyways.......yeah story of my life!! its amazing what a simple dress can do. A DRESS FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!! I even got a marriage proposal!!! this world is coming to an end oh!! JUST PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE STALKERS!!! IF YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO..GO KICK ROCKS, JUMP IN A SEWER OR JUST GET IN A WATER BOTTLE, FILL IT WITH WATER AND DROWN!!! JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!! LEAVE MY LIFE AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!!!!siiighhhhh...hhmmmm well maybe am HOT!!! who knows! but I hate the attention!! ok dont get me wrong.. I love attention but from normal guys!!! gosh!
In other news: I am loving my natural hair!!! I cant even tell you guys how much I love it!! I cant wait for it to be long again!!!
Sidenote : I ran into one of my subscribers today!!! I have never met her in my life..A friend of mine forwarded her one of my blogs and she fell in love with it ( it was that yummy blog about relationship rules...yeah I know am too hard on ppl when it comes to dating..oh well)...so she subscribed!! so am at spring creek campus..I had just finished chillaxing with one of my homeboys and as am walking to the library this random chic say hey you must be Linda...am like yeah and you are? she then introduced herself. See in one of my blogs I posted a picture of myself and she just linked the pic to my face...AAAAWWW I was sooo happy !!! we talked for like 30 mins and she sooooo has my personality!! hmmm lets just say a friendship has began; coz we having a coffee date on friday! and she is pre-pharmacy too!! like MEEEE..but she is a freshman!! Thank you Jesus for giving me this opportunity to meet another new person!! THANKS TO ALL MY SUBSCRIBERS!!! I SERIOUSLY HEART YOU GUYS!!!! THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT!!!! MUUUAAAHHHH
Anyways...Good night home skillets!!!!!!!
Oct 16, 2010
YES ITS A DUCK!!!!
I came across this interesting blog/relationship website and in light of my last entry, I wanted to share it with you. I think women should use this as a "guide," not a bible to their relationship troubles. I was wary about putting this up because women, sometimes when they get something they think is "newfangled" when in reality its just common sense, they go overboard and fit all the little tips in little boxes and screw up. (I.E., ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN). But when it comes to, what was his name? Baggage, I think you're safe in exploring the articles on this blog and getting an idea of the "ass-clown,' as the articles refer to Baggage, that you're dating, share a baby with, or are married to.
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk
The particular article I came across "Women who talk and think too Much" is about wasting your time explaining things to a man that just does not want to listen. A lot of women have been through the situation where they want to know the direction their relationship is taking (if there even is a direction, some of you are strictly in the do not pass go zone), or something messed up has happened in the relationship and they NEED to ask their men WHY they did it, how it made them FEEL, and how WRONG it was, when these men are smart enough to know all these things without you telling him, he just did not care enough to not do them. I'm not talking about how you got all dressed up one night and he forgot to tell you how nice you look, I'm talking about how you got all dressed up one night to spend time with him and he forgot to show up. Women spend so much energy talking, talking, and more talking, and what does he give you. A bunch of one word answers, just stares at you, maybe even flips it on you and tell you how you messed up. What women are missing is that Baggage's head is obviously not where your head is at. He's doing everything ON HIS SCHEDULE. He will communicate with you on a NEED TO KNOW. So get with the program and bounce chica. Chuck dem deuces!
If I had a dollar for every time one of my girls asked me should I call him to talk I would be rich. I have to ask, why you always calling him to talk. Don't yall just talk, communicate, share, whatever. Track how many times you called to "talk" and I bet every single one of them was because something bad happened. If that's the case, you need to put on them Nike's, start running, and never look back. But do they, no. I get the return phone call, we argued. Duh. Did he apologize? Not for why I am upset but for something else (p.s that dude is slick, cause he can apologize entirely for something else and got you thinking you've won...bahahahahahaha). Duh. So are you guys going to meet up to make up? No. RUN B*TCH RUNNNNNNNNN! A man does not have to spend every waking minute of the day with you. You don't need to speak every day. But when situations start getting rough in your relationship, and there is not enough communicating in the relationship and spending Quality time to work out the kinks, girl get a clue. He's telling you he's not in it/interested enough/too tired whatever to work things out with you so let it go. Don't wait for him to tell you to go. Men who generally do bad things are so screwed up that they still don't want to be the bad guy. Don't waste your brain matter trying to figure out the absurdity of it. They are going to do enough to make you tired and give you the boots to start walking, so when they do get to gettin.
Stop holding on to the one you're with who's not with you, and get READY for the one who will want to be with you. And please women, get yourself ready for him. If all you're relationships are like this one, you're not yet ready for a man who is ready to be with you, because you'll either A) love to easy or B)punish that man for the last man's mistake. Examine and cleanse yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically to turn all the lemons your relationships has given you into lemonade.
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE! : TODAY IS MY ONE MONTH NAPPIVERSATY!!! meaning..I've been natural for one month!! yaaayyy...I love being natural. I dnt miss that creamy crack rubbish!! If any girls out there are thinking of going natural...just do it! you will love it! my hair is healthier, thicker, and believe it or not easier to maintain. I love my texture and the versitility that comes along with natural hair. AM loving this this natural journey!!!!
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk
The particular article I came across "Women who talk and think too Much" is about wasting your time explaining things to a man that just does not want to listen. A lot of women have been through the situation where they want to know the direction their relationship is taking (if there even is a direction, some of you are strictly in the do not pass go zone), or something messed up has happened in the relationship and they NEED to ask their men WHY they did it, how it made them FEEL, and how WRONG it was, when these men are smart enough to know all these things without you telling him, he just did not care enough to not do them. I'm not talking about how you got all dressed up one night and he forgot to tell you how nice you look, I'm talking about how you got all dressed up one night to spend time with him and he forgot to show up. Women spend so much energy talking, talking, and more talking, and what does he give you. A bunch of one word answers, just stares at you, maybe even flips it on you and tell you how you messed up. What women are missing is that Baggage's head is obviously not where your head is at. He's doing everything ON HIS SCHEDULE. He will communicate with you on a NEED TO KNOW. So get with the program and bounce chica. Chuck dem deuces!
If I had a dollar for every time one of my girls asked me should I call him to talk I would be rich. I have to ask, why you always calling him to talk. Don't yall just talk, communicate, share, whatever. Track how many times you called to "talk" and I bet every single one of them was because something bad happened. If that's the case, you need to put on them Nike's, start running, and never look back. But do they, no. I get the return phone call, we argued. Duh. Did he apologize? Not for why I am upset but for something else (p.s that dude is slick, cause he can apologize entirely for something else and got you thinking you've won...bahahahahahaha). Duh. So are you guys going to meet up to make up? No. RUN B*TCH RUNNNNNNNNN! A man does not have to spend every waking minute of the day with you. You don't need to speak every day. But when situations start getting rough in your relationship, and there is not enough communicating in the relationship and spending Quality time to work out the kinks, girl get a clue. He's telling you he's not in it/interested enough/too tired whatever to work things out with you so let it go. Don't wait for him to tell you to go. Men who generally do bad things are so screwed up that they still don't want to be the bad guy. Don't waste your brain matter trying to figure out the absurdity of it. They are going to do enough to make you tired and give you the boots to start walking, so when they do get to gettin.
Stop holding on to the one you're with who's not with you, and get READY for the one who will want to be with you. And please women, get yourself ready for him. If all you're relationships are like this one, you're not yet ready for a man who is ready to be with you, because you'll either A) love to easy or B)punish that man for the last man's mistake. Examine and cleanse yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically to turn all the lemons your relationships has given you into lemonade.
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE! : TODAY IS MY ONE MONTH NAPPIVERSATY!!! meaning..I've been natural for one month!! yaaayyy...I love being natural. I dnt miss that creamy crack rubbish!! If any girls out there are thinking of going natural...just do it! you will love it! my hair is healthier, thicker, and believe it or not easier to maintain. I love my texture and the versitility that comes along with natural hair. AM loving this this natural journey!!!!
Oct 14, 2010
Another rant.......
1.I am NOT ditzy. Not simple. Not your escape. Not your experience. Not a puppet. or a sock monkey. Or a cartoon. Or a reality tv show. I am a real girl. I cry and scream and feel badly about myself and wish i was better and wish i was chosen and loved. I do not wish to be the girl who taught you something about yourself, or the girl with whom you sewed your royal oats. I am not to be tuned into.. and tuned out of. I'm not your vacation from reality. I am not your holiday.
2.Seriously...nowadays I go through my day and end up infuriated. Fury just oozes out of me like you would not believe. I can guarantee you that by 7 p.m (for the last 2 weeks), every day..I am fuming, seething and Livid at the sheer number of vast imbeciles who think that they are too cool for life...for some reason they think they are doing me a favor by being my "friend". Aaaaahhh...NEWSFLASH : before you life was pretty cool. how do you think I survived back before I knew someone by the name of "you" existed?..hhmmm EXACTLY!! with or without you life goes on. WORD!!!!...
3. How many times have I said I hate Fake friends and Liars? ...ok these people are the kind that act all nice in your face, and tell you what you wanna hear, when you wanna hear it, how you wanna hear it and they sound soooooo genuine. HA! little do you know they are just lil scummies, good for nothing maggots!!! They are Professional FAKERS!! Beware...run from them. They are just in your life to use you, or tag you along their so called "life"..puh leez!!! give me Break!!!! pppssshhhh...how about you go kick rocks, jump into a sewer, or go fly with pigs for all I care! and pls LEAVE!! just WALK AWAY and never come back!!! On that note : NOOOOO you cannot stand under my umbrella....thats Rihanna's job.
4. When you are single, all you see is happy couples...hhmmm..It gets better...when you do actually get into a "relationship"...all you see is happy singles...yeah dudes, and dudettes, the grass isnt always green on the other side. SO my advice is...you either stay single and miserable; Or get played...ooppps MY BAD , I meant get into a bloody fiznuck relationship and wish you were dead! ....Ok its not that bad. Ladies : Get rid of that Zero and get you a hero. Just use your head not your heart! but dang! these males are getting worse by the second. they Lie thru their teeth like there's no tomorrow. Lie, Lie, Lie, They even Lie to you about their NAME. You are just their toy. It never fails!!!! am not saying all guys are sick...no....Mr rights do exist....where they are is the mystery I've yet to solve. But boy oh boy...Dont I just loooove being single!!! Enough said...fill in the blanks!!!
5. Time to get rid of some toxic friends....goodbye!
6.Eeeeeeeekkkkkkkk............Time for my to catch some zzzzzzzzzzzz's. Goodnight and much love to those that matter :)
2.Seriously...nowadays I go through my day and end up infuriated. Fury just oozes out of me like you would not believe. I can guarantee you that by 7 p.m (for the last 2 weeks), every day..I am fuming, seething and Livid at the sheer number of vast imbeciles who think that they are too cool for life...for some reason they think they are doing me a favor by being my "friend". Aaaaahhh...NEWSFLASH : before you life was pretty cool. how do you think I survived back before I knew someone by the name of "you" existed?..hhmmm EXACTLY!! with or without you life goes on. WORD!!!!...
3. How many times have I said I hate Fake friends and Liars? ...ok these people are the kind that act all nice in your face, and tell you what you wanna hear, when you wanna hear it, how you wanna hear it and they sound soooooo genuine. HA! little do you know they are just lil scummies, good for nothing maggots!!! They are Professional FAKERS!! Beware...run from them. They are just in your life to use you, or tag you along their so called "life"..puh leez!!! give me Break!!!! pppssshhhh...how about you go kick rocks, jump into a sewer, or go fly with pigs for all I care! and pls LEAVE!! just WALK AWAY and never come back!!! On that note : NOOOOO you cannot stand under my umbrella....thats Rihanna's job.
4. When you are single, all you see is happy couples...hhmmm..It gets better...when you do actually get into a "relationship"...all you see is happy singles...yeah dudes, and dudettes, the grass isnt always green on the other side. SO my advice is...you either stay single and miserable; Or get played...ooppps MY BAD , I meant get into a bloody fiznuck relationship and wish you were dead! ....Ok its not that bad. Ladies : Get rid of that Zero and get you a hero. Just use your head not your heart! but dang! these males are getting worse by the second. they Lie thru their teeth like there's no tomorrow. Lie, Lie, Lie, They even Lie to you about their NAME. You are just their toy. It never fails!!!! am not saying all guys are sick...no....Mr rights do exist....where they are is the mystery I've yet to solve. But boy oh boy...Dont I just loooove being single!!! Enough said...fill in the blanks!!!
5. Time to get rid of some toxic friends....goodbye!
6.Eeeeeeeekkkkkkkk............Time for my to catch some zzzzzzzzzzzz's. Goodnight and much love to those that matter :)
Oct 7, 2010
What the bloody fiznuck????
Nothing annoys me more than poor communication skills!! I cannot even hammer this enough!! COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO SURVIVAL IN THIS LIFE!!!!! let me be fair here :so according to the webstar dictionary : communication is an act or instance of transmitting a verbal or written message. Ok now that I have cleared the air..lets jibber jabber.
I do not consider myself the smartest chic...nope. All I do is TRY and use my common sense and in the process...I get called Intelligent. pretty cool huh? BUT the funny thing about common sense is that its not very common. I understand we all come from different backgrounds, For some English is their second language and as a result they struggle with direct translation from their native language...which I totally understand. But what about someone who has spoken english their whole life..might not be your first language but you know grammer rules and all that yummy stuff...WHY oh WHY can't you just communicate correctly ;and Technology is supposed to make our life easier but I think its making us stupid. Whats up with the whole 160 characters to send a text? hmmmm...so now we ought to send a whole message in 160 characters and now all hell breaks lose and all the shenanigans arise. Here is an example:
" Hey do you like Kanye's new album"?..Here is the fabulous response : " Yah. He be on dat sweet sh*t. watchu think doh? we was jammin 2 it and I was like this sh*t is da dopest!!!...
Ok ok ok..I do abbreviate also..but what is going on here? The past, present, future and non-existing tense are all used in one sentence. Or I hate it wen kyds type lyke dis.."oh hey waddup!!!" nun much just chillaxin with ma mama..N oh guezz wat? tammara (tomorrow), I be goin shopping at da mall....there's a reason English is a compulsory subject in schools. This generation is a GONE case!!!
OH ha..it gets better...the dude thats trying to holla at you or whatever and he cannot even spell anything..or make sense at all YET he just claimed he has a master's degree...REALLY? now if you are educated as you claim and you are trying to ask ME out...NEWSFLASH : you better communicate right!!! Proper englsih at that. and act professional just like you claim. I play scrabble guys so bad spelling is annoying..well we all have typos here and there but just CONSTANT spelling errors make me want to pull my hair OUT!!!! NO NO NO.... ugghhhhh
Another thing that I hate is people who have this lame attempt at trying to keep themselves informed. How about you do us a favor? Research your information before you open your mouth..or if you simply have no clue about what is going on..you have the right to remain silent. Do you know what am talking about? yeah you do...people who try Sooo hard to impress their man, woman, co-workers, etc... so you blab and jibber jabber and act like you are informed...*awkward silence followed by cricket noise*....LAME!! Just be like me...if you DO not know it...shut up!!! you cannot be mr or miss know-it-all... be humam for once and stop the global warming with frying our brains with nonesense.
How about Mr/Miss me too....NOW these are the people that you could really kick them where the sun doesn't shine...Here is a random example : " I love Benihana's..especially their california rolls with avocado"....here comes mr or mr unoriginal : " OMGEE!!!! me tooo...I love their spaghetti too"....SIGH..WHAAAAATTTT? NOOOOOOO Benihana's is a japanese restaurant and they DO not serve pasta!!!!..or how about " Hey I would love bleu cheese on my burger instead or american cheese"..."oh me too except I want my cheese melted"...NKT!! bleu cheese does not melt honey!! how about just ask if you are unsure or just be you. Ok you get the point!!
TO ALL BLACK KIDS : Please go to college. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be the next big rapper but what happens when you do not have a hit anymore? YEP you know it. get an education to fall back on. Stop day dreaming about crap!! Get you Butt to school.
SO yeah, Even if you're not the sharpest tool in the shed, at least spare us the pleasure of hearing things you know nothing about, or disdain for those of us who do like to learn. You don't see me giving you the eye when you tell me about your new Xbox game, or those new Christian Louboutins you refuse to shutup about. I like all those things too, but its not the only thing I talk about.
So don't be a dummy, or try REALLY hard not to come off as one. At least find something of interest outside of your daily routine and expand your knowledge base. Don't be comfortable in ignorance.
I do not consider myself the smartest chic...nope. All I do is TRY and use my common sense and in the process...I get called Intelligent. pretty cool huh? BUT the funny thing about common sense is that its not very common. I understand we all come from different backgrounds, For some English is their second language and as a result they struggle with direct translation from their native language...which I totally understand. But what about someone who has spoken english their whole life..might not be your first language but you know grammer rules and all that yummy stuff...WHY oh WHY can't you just communicate correctly ;and Technology is supposed to make our life easier but I think its making us stupid. Whats up with the whole 160 characters to send a text? hmmmm...so now we ought to send a whole message in 160 characters and now all hell breaks lose and all the shenanigans arise. Here is an example:
" Hey do you like Kanye's new album"?..Here is the fabulous response : " Yah. He be on dat sweet sh*t. watchu think doh? we was jammin 2 it and I was like this sh*t is da dopest!!!...
Ok ok ok..I do abbreviate also..but what is going on here? The past, present, future and non-existing tense are all used in one sentence. Or I hate it wen kyds type lyke dis.."oh hey waddup!!!" nun much just chillaxin with ma mama..N oh guezz wat? tammara (tomorrow), I be goin shopping at da mall....there's a reason English is a compulsory subject in schools. This generation is a GONE case!!!
OH ha..it gets better...the dude thats trying to holla at you or whatever and he cannot even spell anything..or make sense at all YET he just claimed he has a master's degree...REALLY? now if you are educated as you claim and you are trying to ask ME out...NEWSFLASH : you better communicate right!!! Proper englsih at that. and act professional just like you claim. I play scrabble guys so bad spelling is annoying..well we all have typos here and there but just CONSTANT spelling errors make me want to pull my hair OUT!!!! NO NO NO.... ugghhhhh
Another thing that I hate is people who have this lame attempt at trying to keep themselves informed. How about you do us a favor? Research your information before you open your mouth..or if you simply have no clue about what is going on..you have the right to remain silent. Do you know what am talking about? yeah you do...people who try Sooo hard to impress their man, woman, co-workers, etc... so you blab and jibber jabber and act like you are informed...*awkward silence followed by cricket noise*....LAME!! Just be like me...if you DO not know it...shut up!!! you cannot be mr or miss know-it-all... be humam for once and stop the global warming with frying our brains with nonesense.
How about Mr/Miss me too....NOW these are the people that you could really kick them where the sun doesn't shine...Here is a random example : " I love Benihana's..especially their california rolls with avocado"....here comes mr or mr unoriginal : " OMGEE!!!! me tooo...I love their spaghetti too"....SIGH..WHAAAAATTTT? NOOOOOOO Benihana's is a japanese restaurant and they DO not serve pasta!!!!..or how about " Hey I would love bleu cheese on my burger instead or american cheese"..."oh me too except I want my cheese melted"...NKT!! bleu cheese does not melt honey!! how about just ask if you are unsure or just be you. Ok you get the point!!
TO ALL BLACK KIDS : Please go to college. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be the next big rapper but what happens when you do not have a hit anymore? YEP you know it. get an education to fall back on. Stop day dreaming about crap!! Get you Butt to school.
SO yeah, Even if you're not the sharpest tool in the shed, at least spare us the pleasure of hearing things you know nothing about, or disdain for those of us who do like to learn. You don't see me giving you the eye when you tell me about your new Xbox game, or those new Christian Louboutins you refuse to shutup about. I like all those things too, but its not the only thing I talk about.
So don't be a dummy, or try REALLY hard not to come off as one. At least find something of interest outside of your daily routine and expand your knowledge base. Don't be comfortable in ignorance.
Oct 3, 2010
Random Post * Yawn*
Everyday Is a learning day for me. Each day that passes by, you get wiser (or dumber) depending on how you value yourself and the experiences you go through, So here is a basic rant about my week thus far and a totally random post :
1. Its 12:04 am and I still have a TON of Organic chem HW to do. sigh..what happenned to life? I miss the days when problems means, falling off your bike, or getting mad coz mommy didnt buy you that pink dress with a big bow on it.
2. Friendship : the most misunderstood word in the dictionary. LOVE: the most abused word in the whole universe. Here is the deal...being passive agrresive is not cute. If you have a problem with me, or If I, at any point offended you in any way [am not perfect, and i dnt intentionally hurt people, am human for crying out loud]..just come to my face and tell me hey this is whats up. DNT talk behind my back, dnt complain to third parties who have no meaning at all in my life. If you are shy or scared or whatever, shoot me an email or something...just saying.
3.I hate everything about everything sometimes. I hate mind games, I hate stupid lies, I hate guys that think they have swagga when they have nothing @ all, I hate fake people, I hate backstabbers and rumor mongers, I hate users, BUT What I hate the most is when you insult my inteligence or Play with my emotions. NO, NO, NO, DO not mistake me for that X-box game you got for xmas. Just keep it real.
4. GOD is GREAT!!!! I cannot and will not live without him. his mercies keep raining down on me like a flood!!!
5. There's a battlefield in my head right now. See, lately I've been really conflicted about my role as a woman. I've never been the Chic who HAS to have a guy by her side; am too focused on school and I I think I gotta find that balance. But here's the thing. You meet a dude, You like his personality, his swagga is on point, you study the way he talks, his background, where he lives and you conclude ok I think am liking this fella and I want to know him better. Oh boy, This is where the conflict comes within me. While I do believe that its ok to let a guy know that you are interested in them, you should let the guy pursue you. A minister by the name of Perry Noble put it brilliantly in his blog called " Four things single girls should know". He said " Girls chase boys but Women wait to be pursued". That quote hit me like a ton of bricks. It silenced every nagging thought and every well meaning piece of advice I had received from friends urging me to "Just call him" or " Make the first move" or "Be aggressive". There is a reason why the word of God says " He who finds a wife finds a good thing..." .The emphasis is on the word "He" and " find". Not "She" but "He". From time we have heard that women are the "gatherers" and men are the "hunters". Many times, I battle with the feeling of having to do something, say something, make something happen to get that individuals attention. But everytime I am at the cusp of doing something that could be potentially humiliating, the small voice of calm says " Be Still and know that I am God". I will leave it at that for now.
6. Isnt it funny how we girls always want that "one" guy who isnt even good for you? I mean like the saying goes, there are many fish in the sea but we just want that ONE Fish. COME ON!!!...am so glad am done with that mess. Ladies...give that "other" guy a chance. he might not be the most good looking fella, or heck maybe he is a little below your standards but MAYBE just MAYBE he is the guy for you. Enough with being treated like crap and taking it just coz we are "in love". NO, a good man respects his girlfriend. PERIOD! no ifs, ands or buts about it.
7. The PCAT scores came in last saturday... WOW!!!!
8. 9 more days till Grandpa is here...aaawww....
9. Congrats to my homie Brandon on Proposing to his Girlfriend!!! HE IS ENGAGED!!!!! aaawww...wedding day TBA soon.
10. I have a stalker!!!!! Thank God I blocked his number!!!
Song of the day : "only girl in the world" by Rihanna.
P.S : I do not like jelly beans any more...... good news is I HAVE A PET MONKEY NOW!!!!!! [ insider].
1. Its 12:04 am and I still have a TON of Organic chem HW to do. sigh..what happenned to life? I miss the days when problems means, falling off your bike, or getting mad coz mommy didnt buy you that pink dress with a big bow on it.
2. Friendship : the most misunderstood word in the dictionary. LOVE: the most abused word in the whole universe. Here is the deal...being passive agrresive is not cute. If you have a problem with me, or If I, at any point offended you in any way [am not perfect, and i dnt intentionally hurt people, am human for crying out loud]..just come to my face and tell me hey this is whats up. DNT talk behind my back, dnt complain to third parties who have no meaning at all in my life. If you are shy or scared or whatever, shoot me an email or something...just saying.
3.I hate everything about everything sometimes. I hate mind games, I hate stupid lies, I hate guys that think they have swagga when they have nothing @ all, I hate fake people, I hate backstabbers and rumor mongers, I hate users, BUT What I hate the most is when you insult my inteligence or Play with my emotions. NO, NO, NO, DO not mistake me for that X-box game you got for xmas. Just keep it real.
4. GOD is GREAT!!!! I cannot and will not live without him. his mercies keep raining down on me like a flood!!!
5. There's a battlefield in my head right now. See, lately I've been really conflicted about my role as a woman. I've never been the Chic who HAS to have a guy by her side; am too focused on school and I I think I gotta find that balance. But here's the thing. You meet a dude, You like his personality, his swagga is on point, you study the way he talks, his background, where he lives and you conclude ok I think am liking this fella and I want to know him better. Oh boy, This is where the conflict comes within me. While I do believe that its ok to let a guy know that you are interested in them, you should let the guy pursue you. A minister by the name of Perry Noble put it brilliantly in his blog called " Four things single girls should know". He said " Girls chase boys but Women wait to be pursued". That quote hit me like a ton of bricks. It silenced every nagging thought and every well meaning piece of advice I had received from friends urging me to "Just call him" or " Make the first move" or "Be aggressive". There is a reason why the word of God says " He who finds a wife finds a good thing..." .The emphasis is on the word "He" and " find". Not "She" but "He". From time we have heard that women are the "gatherers" and men are the "hunters". Many times, I battle with the feeling of having to do something, say something, make something happen to get that individuals attention. But everytime I am at the cusp of doing something that could be potentially humiliating, the small voice of calm says " Be Still and know that I am God". I will leave it at that for now.
6. Isnt it funny how we girls always want that "one" guy who isnt even good for you? I mean like the saying goes, there are many fish in the sea but we just want that ONE Fish. COME ON!!!...am so glad am done with that mess. Ladies...give that "other" guy a chance. he might not be the most good looking fella, or heck maybe he is a little below your standards but MAYBE just MAYBE he is the guy for you. Enough with being treated like crap and taking it just coz we are "in love". NO, a good man respects his girlfriend. PERIOD! no ifs, ands or buts about it.
7. The PCAT scores came in last saturday... WOW!!!!
8. 9 more days till Grandpa is here...aaawww....
9. Congrats to my homie Brandon on Proposing to his Girlfriend!!! HE IS ENGAGED!!!!! aaawww...wedding day TBA soon.
10. I have a stalker!!!!! Thank God I blocked his number!!!
Song of the day : "only girl in the world" by Rihanna.
P.S : I do not like jelly beans any more...... good news is I HAVE A PET MONKEY NOW!!!!!! [ insider].
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