The Friendship test....A must read

I got a call from a friend of mine a week ago and she was basically heartbroken as a result of the ultimate betrayal from a dear friend of hers. She wanted me to blog about this because she felt someone out there could benefit from this story. so here we go:

2 years ago..My friend Anne (not real name) was in a relationship with a wonderful guy. Everything was fine untill she made the the biggest mistake ever....She cheated on her boyfriend. The guilt was slowly killing her so she decided to confide in one of her "best" friends but she never told her boyfriend because she was scared of loosing him. #pause. One day, Anne's friend was going through a financial turmoil and her car was about to be repossessed ....out of kindness and love, Anne loaned her 2,000 Dollars to help. Fast forward two years  later, Her friend still hasn't paid her a single dime and is now acting like she doesn't owe Anne anything. This really took a toll on their friendship. Anyways 2 weeks ago, it was Anne's Fiancee's birthday and she made reservations at Blue Mesa grill  in Addison, Tx and she had invited 30 guests. I was not able to go so I just sent a gift. While at Blue Mesa..they ran into Anne's friend..she was there with her boyfriend as well and two other friends. This friend of hers got overly upset over the fact that she was not invited to the birthday dinner and what not. Lots of words were exchanged and the situation escalated into a heated argument and in the midst of all these people and Anne's boyfriend....this chic yelled "AT LEAST I DIDN'T CHEAT ON MY BOYFRIEND".

Anne's fiancee got really mad...which he had every right to and Men are not like women where they will calm down, re-think and forgive. Men have their ego and so this man dumped Anne in front of Everybody and walked off. Mark you, they were living together so now Anne was left homeless and 2,000 dollars poorer.
NOW I am not in any way condoning what Anne did...cheating is wrong period...she should have told her boyfriend and maybe things would be different...BUT this chic had NO business airing out her best friend's secret in public. That's Betrayal.  Many females are really catty and just have no idea about the norm of friendship. I'm not saying every female out there is like this...but when someone actually takes the time to trust in you and confide in you then you better respect that. No one is perfect. If you have a problem with me just tell me in person instead of publicly humiliating and assassinating my integrity. This led me to formulate the top 3 tips you should use to determine who is a friend, acquaintance, associate or simply a no-use dirty rat :

1. Surround yourself with people who have the same mindset and values as you do. They don't have to have the same exact goals as you but having lots of things in common is a plus. Friends are supposed to be our checks and balances . If you have a friend who just agrees with everything you do and doesn't take the time to  correct you when they think you are  going on the wrong path then that's just an idiot with no opinion. If such people were a website; they would be a waste of skin.com. Beware of people who talk behind your back. These are the Judas Iscariot of today.

2. Rank your friends....this sounds like am discriminating but I'm honestly not. This ranking system helps you decide who to confide in and who to keep as an associate. Never tell your secrets to just anybody..they will destroy you.

3. The best way to determine a true friend is to watch how they argue....if someone uses an argument as a perfect opportunity to publicly assasinate your character and dispense everything you have told them then thats the devil...they are not worthy of even your attention. stay away from these people. You can party with them and have a good time but the line gets drawn there. I wouldn't even trust them with my pet.

Be really careful who you call your "friends". Its ok to get rid of toxic good for nothing people in your life. Friendship is a two way street. If at any point you feel like you are the only person trying to contribute to the value of friendship then just stop, and move on.
That's all I have for now. More blog posts coming your way.

NAMASTE!